父亲的事后烟,回头看这个电影

第一次看这部电影,心里的感觉就是感动,听父亲的话时是比较平静和安慰的。

抱歉,撸多了,一开始是很猴急的,但耐着性子看了两个多小时,中途倒带了几处。
    第一印象:这书香门第,这开放程度,只可远观。
    那个暖阳煦煦的夏日,有的不仅是躁动的青春,还有中年人的唏嘘和关心,谈笑有鸿儒,这可能是故事能走向happy
ending的最重要原因了,Elio的父母无疑是睿智的、超前的,片尾父亲的一番话摘录如下”You
had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy
you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or
pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am not such a
parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a
flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a
terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others
forget us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten is no bet¬ter. We rip
out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should
that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each
time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel
anything—what a waste!”
“How you live your life is your business. But remember, our hearts and
our bodies are given to us only once. Most of us can’t help but live as
though we’ve got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the
finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But
there’s only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and,
as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less
wants to come near it. ”
    对电影不作道德评判,本就是各人下雪,何况是高于生活的艺术作品。有个小想法,本片会不会是Elio父亲的一场梦呢,事后烟看似潇洒,经历的故事却不常对外讲,Elio的眼泪,你的眼泪,我的眼泪,在感情生活里流的泪,虽能共情,怕也是五味陈杂吧。
    第一段已空四个字符,不怪我。
    以下为臆想‘,光明节可能是特意设置的,本就是为破旧立新而创设的节日,兽人永不为奴!

3月去了一次摩洛哥,在舍夫沙万,在那里遇见了一个摩洛哥穆斯林男孩,很干净的眼睛,像舍夫沙万这个蓝色小镇一样纯净。我向来是拒绝crush的旅行者,也从来没有crush,但就是不经意的一句发自内心的夸赞,牵起了这段奇怪的缘分。

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在舍夫沙万的几天,我都会去他的店里买纪念品,顺便聊几句,男孩也从开始的羞涩变得开始健谈,甚至在我走的那天他要来送我。加了facebook,还教他下载了微信,一直到回国,都没有断了联系。

直到有一天他问我会不会再回去,我对他,是不是sth about
love,他让我seriouly的讲,然后他会回答。

自嘲点讲,我是一个大龄剩女,好在家人的开明,还能让我在30随时保持一些自由和洒脱。但我又是一个实际和理性的人。我大他8岁,但是他丝毫不介意,不知道穆斯林是不是天生严肃,不能开玩笑,但他确实有点打动我的心,就像我高中第一次看到暗恋的男生那种感觉,本以为这辈子不会第二次有的这种感觉。我甚至有了想再一次回到摩洛哥的冲动,理智与情感在打架,不知道自己的这种念头是错是对。

直到回头再看《call me by your
name》,终于理解了Elio和Oliver,即使知道结果也忍不住拥住哪怕一刻钟的相爱,理解了那个夏天带给Elio一个月的美好和一生的影响。再看这部电影,心里是隐隐作痛。而重读一遍父亲的话,是恍然大悟,我不知道作者是有过什么样的经历,才能写出这么深刻的台词,我想在我今后人生中的某个时刻,这段话都会对我有所影响。就像现在,我真的打算再去一次摩洛哥了。再贴一次父亲的话:

You had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy
you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or
pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am not such a
parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a
flame, don’t snuff it out, don’t be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a
terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others
forget us sooner than we’d want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out
so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we
go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we
start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel
anything—what a waste!”

How you live your life is your business. But remember, our hearts and
our bodies are given to us only once. Most of us can’t help but live as
though we’ve got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the
finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But
there’s only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and,
as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less
wants to come near it.

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